The Power Of Emotional Intelligence In Relationships

Romantic Relationships are almost completely Emotional but so are friendships, family, and even relationships at work. The blessing that emotions are to us is that we get a chance to experience thrilling moments that can and will last a lifetime in our memory.

However, because emotional experiences are naturally etched into our memory, we can and often do have negative experiences etched in our memory too. This is why Emotional Intelligence is so important: as writer Maya Angelou once said, “People Won’t Remember What You Said Or Did But They Will Remember How You Made Them Feel.” By increasing your Emotional Intelligence, you’ll be able to make your relationships great.

Here is a list of things that are needed to become Emotionally Intelligent and more effective at managing them:

Compassion

Curiosity

Patience

Forgiveness

Understanding Others

Compassion makes people feel like you care about them. It has some of the components listed above such as Forgiveness, Patience, and Understanding but it’s more than that. Compassion is putting yourself in another person’s shoes and understanding what it’s like to be them. When this happens and they can feel it, they feel validated and cared for by you. This is especially true for those who don’t have anyone around them who does this because they’ll not only be shocked that you did it but they’ll start listening to you because they want to know and understand why you do that with and to them.

          When you become Curious about people, they feel like you care because they need people to understand them and Curiosity is one of the best tools to make that happen. Being Curious also helps you not only learn things about the person you’re interacting with but it’ll help you learn more about yourself. This is because you’ll be learning how much you are either similar to the person you’re interacting with or how much and why you’re not. Doing so will help you discover more about yourself than you ever knew before, redefine your view of yourself, and maybe even reinvent yourself when it seems like the right thing to do. Any and all of those things will help you improve your Emotional Intelligence and provide those improvements to all relationships.  

          Being Patient is a blessing in the mind of the person on the receiving end of it because they realize they haven’t been thrown away for not being Perfect. Patience is a demonstration of Care and Love so being patient with others improves relationships immeasurably. The person on the receiving end of your patience will never forget it.

          Forgiveness seems to be hard for most people to do. But those people who can do it, are some of the easiest, most pleasant people to be around. Their ability and motivation to forgive is received as a blessing and allows people to forgive themselves, which frees them up to live life more freely, and from an empowering mindset. In addition, they will often be forgiving to the person who forgave them and is likely to never forget the forgiveness they received from the person who did it. Remember that forgiveness is a form of Agape Love, which is something everyone is happy to receive though they may not think of it that way most of the time.

          When it comes to Understanding Others, this is one of the most important things people want to experience and receive from others. This is because it makes people unconsciously think if they weren’t important to you, you probably wouldn’t spend any time trying to understand them. Understanding others is unconsciously received as an effort to invest in the person on the receiving end of being understood because they must be important to the person spending time trying to understand them. It demonstrates love, care, and almost every other favored emotional experience. This is why Emotional Intelligence is so important: almost no one sees the value in it. They also don’t realize that Emotional Intelligence will educate them on how to make relationships work and in the end, will help them create a life that they love and fulfills them.

          Invest in Emotional Intelligence if happiness, fulfillment, and success are important to you, especially around relationships.