The Frog & The Porcupine

The Reality Of The Impact Emotional Intelligence (Or Lack Thereof) Has On Relationships

Once upon a time, a Handsome, Dashing, Rich, and Successful Man met a Beautiful, Delightful, Intelligent, and Strong Woman.  

‘He’ thought those things about ‘Her.’ ‘She’ thought those things about ‘Him.’

‘He’ asked ‘Her’ out. ‘She’ demurely agreed.

They went out and had a fabulous time. ‘He’ swept ‘Her’ off her feet with his Charisma, Confidence, and Humor. ‘She’ hung onto ‘His’ every word, laughed a lot, and treated him like a Prince.

Things went so well, they began ‘Dating.’

‘She’ called ‘Him’ 3 times a day; ‘He’ texted ‘Her’ 4 times a day. They loved hearing from each other.

One day, ‘She’ had a work issue that greatly upset her. ‘She’ needed someone to talk to and called ‘Him.’ ‘He’ didn’t answer. ‘She’ called 3 more times but no answer. No texts, no voicemail - nothing.

‘She’ became REALLY upset!

When ‘She’ finally reached ‘Him’ the next day, he apologized profusely and declared his undying Like for her. (‘He’ had a legitimate last minute business related mission)

‘She’ took her upset out on ‘Him’ because she was not only upset about work; she “needed” him more than ever and he wasn’t there for her. ‘She’ made sure ‘He’ knew that.

‘He’ listened because he really liked her and wanted to make her happy but he also felt attacked and unsafe. He didn’t know what to do.

So, he did nothing.

The next day, things were back to normal. ‘She’ called him 3 times; ‘He’ texted her 4 times.

They were happy and relieved.

One evening while dining out, ‘He’ saw one of his Female Employees at the restaurant. ‘His Employee’ was as beautiful and delightful as ‘Her.’ ‘He’ spoke with his ‘Employee’ very briefly, then resumed dinner with ‘Her.’

‘She’ didn’t like what she saw and had a difficult time dealing with it.

The rest of the evening didn’t go very well.

‘He’ tried to bring the magic back by trying to make ‘Her’ happy. However, the more ‘He’ tried, the less ‘She’ liked it - or him. ‘Her’ hair and nails were getting longer and sharper, along with her words.

‘She’ thought ‘He’ looked weak, small, and intimidated. Even his skin started looking green; you could even say frog-like. ‘She’ could barely stand being around him.  

One day, ‘She’ noticed she had trouble understanding the words that were coming out of ‘His’ mouth. At first, ‘She’ thought he was mumbling, but soon realized he could only say ‘Ribbit.’

That was all she could take.

‘She’ told her girlfriends, “’ He’ was so great at first, but then ‘The Real Him’ showed up! He’s got all these warts! I don’t even understand the words coming out of his mouth! All this time I thought ‘He’ was my Prince, but he’s really a Frog!”

By now, ‘Her’ nails grow extra long and her hair turned into Porcupine needles, shooting out at him and piercing his skin. He became bruised and bloodied.

So, like all frogs do, ‘He’ licked his wounds and escaped to his lake where he can sit on his lily pad in safety.

‘Her’ anger turned a perfectly good Prince into a Frog; ‘His’ passiveness turned a perfectly good Princess into a Porcupine.

‘She’ wanted her Prince back; ‘He’ wanted his Princess back.

Neither of them knew how to reverse The Transformation.

The Porcupine looked all over for The Frog and found ‘Him’ at his lake, sitting on his lily pad. Though sad, all he could do was, ‘Ribbit.’

The Porcupine wanted to talk to The Frog but his lily pad was too far away, so she looked for a way to get to the lily pad because she couldn’t swim.

The Porcupine chose to climb a tree close to the lily pad. ‘She’ began climbing it.

Halfway up, The Porcupine fell!

The Porcupine hit her head and was unconscious for a long time.

When The Porcupine woke up, The Frog was by her side praying for her safety. However, The Porcupine didn’t remember The Frog. In fact, The Porcupine didn’t remember anything at all.

The Frog didn’t know what to do so he just sat there with those Sad Frog Eyes. The Porcupine felt the caring from The Frog and was touched. Then, The Porcupine kissed The Frog to express her appreciation.

In the very next instant, The Frog and The Porcupine became The Prince and The Princess again.

And they lived Happily Ever After…..

THE MORAL OF THE STORY:

Whoever you view as a Failure will feel like a failure around you AND will view you as an Unsafe, Judgmental Attacker. This goes for both male and female ‘Porcupines.’ Men can be abusive physically, mentally, emotionally, or all 3. Women can emasculate and invalidate men into submission. This happens at work, in families, and romantic relationships.

Ending this practice requires forgetting what you think you know about people and look deeply for the good that The Creator instilled in them. No one has a lack of Greatness; we have a lack of Vision.

You have the power to “Listen” the greatness out of anyone, anytime and for any reason. In fact, they can only be how they are around you because that’s what you expect of them.

People live up to or down to the level of expectations you have for them.

Be Generous, Loving, and Gracious with the people in your life. The quality of your life depends on it.